Reflection: When something good happens to you, are you delighted? Or, do you find yourself anxious – certain that just around the corner looms a steep drop from a cliff or a painful kick in the shins?
Texas researcher, Brene Brown, in her studies on emotional health and vulnerability, reports that far too few of us allow ourselves to fully experience joy, love and good news. As a result, we lose out on the opportunity to fill our reservoirs for any tough times that may eventually make an appearance.
She sees people steeling themselves against possible future vulnerability in these ways:
- Experiencing things joyful as a foreboding harbinger of disaster ahead.
- Embracing disappointment as a lifestyle, maintaining a low-grade disconnection from life.
- Not letting ourselves get excited or passionate about some thing or some one, so we won’t be let down if things don’t pan out.
- Numbing emotion through extremes of eating, drinking, spending, working, and perfectionism. (All of which can be attempts to quell a sense of not being ‘enough’ – or in our fame obsessed culture, not being ‘extraordinary enough’.)
Action: What’s the alternative to cowering behind a highly polished, mega shield, firewall of synthetic invulnerability? Read More…
This post was written by Pat Katz on January 30, 2013