2010 February

Pause Blog On Overload, Overwhelm & Life In General

PAUSE – 10.06 – Separation Or Integration?

REFLECTION:
There was a time when creating life balance meant setting better boundaries and shoring up the divide between the workplace and a personal life. Although there are still times where boundary setting is essential, the divide is fuzzy. And, sometimes a sharp divide is not even that desirable.
In the interests of building employee engagement and supporting employees’ lives outside of work, some organizations work very hard to make work as meaningful and as integrated a part of life as possible. They are creating workplace cultures where supportive relationships are nourished, where families are included, where individuals can be themselves (quirks welcome), and where employees are supported in tending to their needs at work and at home.
Here is a sampling of one organization’s strategies for building engagement and supporting balance:
- publishing a company newsletter delivered to homes of employees featuring people news, event updates, and profiling contributions of employees and family members
- hosting work-sponsored events that involve employees’ families (T-shirt design contest, special Family Day BBQ)
- maintaining a Wellness area in the workplace with fitness equipment (for use in exercise room or at desks), BP monitors, and healthy snack options
- recognizing personal milestones and anniversaries (including employee’s start date with the organization)
- encouraging individual decor in workspaces and dress up theme days based on employee interests
- coordinating an emergency fund to help employee families through rough times
ACTION:
If you don’t work with an organization that has made this area a priority, there are still things you can do as an individual to bridge the great divide:
- Share news of your work with those at home. Not just the whines and complaints, but the interesting people news, positive challenges and successes.
- Same thing goes the other way. Share news of family and community activities with those in your workplace. It will help them see you in a more complete light.
- Take advantage of wellness services and programming that are offered in your workplace, and encourage others to do the same.
- Bring other bits of yourself to work. See if there are ways to apply your hobbies and interests to the work at hand.
- Pay attention to your colleagues. Listen and watch for needs you might address and ways you might express support.
These investments will go a long ways in helping you and others more fully integrate and balance lives at work and at home.
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QUOTE OF THE WEEK:
“Fulfilling the four needs [spiritual, mental, physical, social] in an integrated way is like combining elements in chemistry. When we reach a “critical mass” of integration, we experience spontaneous combustion–an explosion of inner synergy that ignites the fire within and gives vision, passion, and a spirit of adventure to life.” – Stephen Covey
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RESOURCE OF THE WEEK:
Read in more detail about Beryl Institute’s approach to balancing and enriching the lives of their employees and their families at: http://www.entrepreneur.com/management/columnistpaulspiegelman/article205146.html
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READERS WRITE:
In response to last week’s Pause message on ‘Life’s Pinball Challenge’, reader GJ writes: I use the visual of the pinball game in explaining how I felt growing up. I was the ultimate people pleaser and  felt like the steel ball being shot out into the pinball game, zinging all over the place, totally out of control, but racking up the points. I answered to almost every person who needed or wanted a piece of me. Hearing the bells ring here, there and everywhere as they called me to help them was the ultimate stressor for me. Eventually, I would disappear into this hole waiting for the next call to help. I’m glad that, through workshops such as yours and the wonderful books out there to read, I’m learning to not tilt into that hole as often!

Balance Ball-wREFLECTION: There was a time when creating life balance meant setting better boundaries and shoring up the divide between the workplace and a personal life. Although there are still times where boundary setting is essential, the divide is fuzzy. And, sometimes a sharp divide is not even that desirable.

In the interests of building employee engagement and supporting employees’ lives outside of work, some organizations work very hard to make work as meaningful and as integrated a part of life as possible. They are creating workplace cultures where supportive relationships are nourished, where families are included, where individuals can be themselves (quirks welcome), and where employees are supported in tending to their needs at work and at home.

Here is a sampling of one organization’s strategies for building engagement and supporting balance: Read More…

Posted under Life Balance, Overload & Overwhelm, Pause E-zines

This post was written by Pat Katz on February 24, 2010

PAUSE – 10.05 – Life’s Pinball Challenge

REFLECTION:
Some days it seems like life is one big pinball experience. You blast into action with a big rush of energy towards your main goal for the day. Within moments an unexpected problem forces you off course. While your attention shifts in the direction of the diversion, phone calls, email, and drop-ins further deflect your concentration from the task at hand. Just as you give your head a shake and circle back around to where you started, you find yourself drawn to a shiny distraction that you hadn’t noted before.  And so it goes.
The game continues. You ping, pong, bounce, and rebound your way through the day, seemingly at the mercy of external impediments and obstacles that may or may not have anything to do with your initial intent.
Been there? Done that?
(BTW, if you are of a certain age where pinball is a foreign word, you’ll find it described on Wiki at: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pinball).
What’s the difference between the game of pinball and life as a pinball experience? In the game you get points for crazed careening. Keep the play in motion without tilting, and you not only rack up high scores, but you also get to play keep on playing.
In pinball as life, crazed careening also keeps us ‘playing’ – sometimes late into the evening hours. However, as we tilt in multiple directions, our productivity sinks and satisfaction flounders – despite massive injections of energy along the way.
ACTION:
Here are a few strategies that can help you make more satisfying progress in a pinball world where obstructions continuously pop into play:
*  Start with an intention to be more focused and composed. It will heighten the quality of attention you bring to tasks at hand and reduce your susceptibility to distraction.
*  Build in ‘think time’ early in the day and make ‘get back on track’ investments of time as the day unfolds.
*  Limit inflow distractions whenever possible. There isn’t a cell phone or computer ‘alive’ that can force you to look its way unless you give it that power over your attention. Check for new input and info when it suits you – not on the whim of the machine.
*  Be thoughtful about the number of meetings and appointments you schedule in the course of a day. Nonstop back to back confabs will keep you bouncing between engagements with little time for thoughtful preparation or follow through.
*  Develop one or two no-fail strategies to catch your breath and calm yourself down when the pace of play sends stress levels into the stratosphere. You’ll need them to stay in the game!
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QUOTE OF THE WEEK:
“Whatever you want to accomplish, whatever is important to you, do it and do it now – with as much grace, intensity, and sense of ease as you can muster.” – Marc Lesser
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RESOURCE OF THE WEEK:
Check out Marc Lesser’s book:  ”LESS – Accomplishing More by Doing Less”. 2009. New World Library. You can get a sense of Marc’s voice from his blog at: http://doingless.net/blog
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READERS WRITE:
In response to last week’s Pause message, Valentine Reflections, reader CD writes: “Thanks for the relationship reminders, Pat! The one that resonates most for me (married almost 20 years) is – tell your partner what you want/need. I think many of us, especially women, have hopes and dreams
for our relationships, but feel like if we have to tell our partners, it won’t be meaningful if they happen.  I have told many of my younger friends “tell him what you want”!  Would it be nice for him to divine
that information? Sure. But 9 times out of 10 it won’t happen, and this creates resentments that really aren’t fair.”

pinball machine-wREFLECTION: Some days it seems like life is one big pinball experience. You blast into action with a big rush of energy towards your main goal for the day. Within moments an unexpected problem forces you off course. While your attention shifts in the direction of the diversion, phone calls, email, and drop-ins further deflect your concentration from the task at hand. Just as you give your head a shake and circle back around to where you started, you find yourself drawn to a shiny distraction that you hadn’t noted before.  And so it goes.

The game continues. You ping, pong, bounce, and rebound your way through the day, seemingly at the mercy of external impediments and obstacles that may or may not have anything to do with your initial intent.

Been there? Done that? Read More…

Posted under Life Balance, Overload & Overwhelm, Pause E-zines

This post was written by Pat Katz on February 17, 2010

Upcoming Seminar Program

Life Balance Leadership: Ease the Load & Lead the Way is the title of my upcoming public seminar offered through the U of S Business & Leadership Programs here in Saskatoon on March 11th. If you or your team are challenged by overload and overwhelm, you’ll find this program is chock full of insights and solutions to help you deal with it all in a more sane and successful way. Check details and register at: http://learntolead.usask.ca/easetheload.html Hope to see you there.

Life Balance Leadership: Ease the Load & Lead the Way is the title of my upcoming public seminar offered through the U of S Business & Leadership Programs here in Saskatoon on March 11th.

If you or your team are challenged by overload and overwhelm, you’ll find this program is chock full of insights and solutions to help you deal with it all in a more sane and successful way.

Click here to check details and register.  Hope to see you there!

Posted under Life Balance, Overload & Overwhelm

This post was written by Pat Katz on February 16, 2010

PAUSE -10.04- Valentine Reflections

REFLECTION:
As I write this week’s Pause message, I am back in snowy Saskatoon after a two week break in the sunny south. Dave and I cruised the Caribbean for 10 days (joined by our eldest daughter and son in law) and then spent 4 days on our own exploring Key West, Florida. We celebrated our 36th anniversary in Key West with a wine and wind sunset cruise on Danger’s schooner, the Prize. A great experience all round!
Those of you who are long term Pause readers may recall that last year this time, my early February Pause message featured a list of relationship lessons learned from 35 years of married life. That edition of Pause elicited quite a strong and positive response.
At that time, a number of you wrote to share your own relationship lessons and advice. I promised to pass your comments along. With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, this seems to be the perfect time to do so. In the Readers’ Write section of today’s message, you’ll find a link to a collection of Pause Reader relationship advice.
Many of you also asked me to pretty up the Ten Lessons List a bit so you could: post it on your fridge, tack it to your bulletin board, share it with your partner, or tuck it into wedding gifts for other couples just starting out.
My Valentine’s gift to you is a formatted poster style version of those Lessons Learned. You’ll find a link to a printable pdf below in the Resource Of The Week. Enjoy and share as you wish.
ACTION:
Relationships are such an important part of life. Pause this week to appreciate those friends, partners, colleagues and family members who contribute so much to your life. If you haven’t done so recently, take a moment to let them know how much they mean to you.
I guarantee it will be time well spent. You’ll never regret making the time to let someone know you care. You may, however, regret letting the busy-ness of life force aside your best intentions to speak up.
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QUOTE OF THE WEEK:
“Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It’s not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.” – Author Unknown
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RESOURCE OF THE WEEK:
Link to the Lessons Learned poster: http://www.pauseworks.com/library/articles/loves_lessons_learned.pdf

Heart-wREFLECTION: As I write this week’s Pause message, I am back in snowy Saskatoon after a two week break in the sunny south. Dave and I cruised the Caribbean for 10 days (joined by our eldest daughter and son in law) and then spent 4 days on our own exploring Key West, Florida. We celebrated our 36th anniversary in Key West with a wine and wind sunset cruise on Danger’s schooner, the Prize. A great experience all round!

Those of you who are long term Pause readers may recall that last year this time, my early February Pause message featured a list of relationship lessons learned from 35 years of married life. That edition of Pause elicited quite a strong and positive response.

At that time, a number of you wrote to share your own relationship lessons and advice. I promised to pass your comments along. With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, this seems to be the perfect time to do so. Read More…

Posted under Life in General, Pause E-zines

This post was written by Pat Katz on February 12, 2010

Paintings From Points South

One of the best parts of any travel adventure these days is the chance to give my paints and brushes a workout. Here are a few of the results.

Willemstad Punda

Willemstad, Curacao – Brightly colored buildings along Anna Baie on the Punda side of the floating bridge. Apparently years ago the Governor’s eyes were bothered by the light reflecting off the white buildings and ordered them all to be painted different colours. I think maybe he was just longing for something a bit more European in flavour.

Hilton Marina Ft Laud

Hilton Marina – Fort Lauderdale. Picture pretty poolside.

Mermaid Alligator Garden

Key West, Florida – In the garden of the Mermaid and Alligator Bed & Breakfast. It’s a great garden setting – with orchids in bloom spilling out of pots and hanging from pillars. And yes, it is the middle of winter here.

Key West- The Artists House

Key West, Florida – The Artist’s House on Eaton Street. I’m not normally a fan of purple, but something about the shape and shutters on this building caught my eye. The Traveling Conch Tourist train made three passes, while I perched  across the street with my paints.

Posted under Artwork, Travel

This post was written by Pat Katz on February 3, 2010